What I Wish I Knew After Graduation – Post Harvard University | Ahsante the Artist
The best is yet to come & babe won’t it be
fine Hey it’s Ahsante and it seems like once
you graduate from college, you’re supposed to have your whole life figure out.
Like you got a degree in divination or something. Graduating from college feels like a pretty
uncertain time in your life. It isn’t quite like jumping off a cliff,
because you have got some idea, but it’s like venturing into the Amazon.
It’s exciting, it’s unfamiliar territory. You’ve got a map, that you’ve spent the
last four or so years figuring out how to use,
you walked across the stage, they gave you the map,
But the Amazon is a jungle, it does what it wants.
Maybe you step into that first job, realize the water is murky and come up with ringworm.
You might start off thinking that you know where you’re going only to realize that
you’ve been following somebody else’s smoke signals and you’re completely lost.
You may be able to dodge the jaguars and the alligators and Sally Mae, but then slip on
a a poison dart frog and fall into a pit of taxes.
I’ve never been to the Amazon, but I assume it’s similar to that.
So in order that you may have a safe and non infectious journey through these next couple
years, here are 10 things that I wish I’d known when I graduated college at Harvard. There’s all this pressure to have a job right
when you graduate. But this is not Judge Judy, you get to work on your own timeline.
You will find a job eventually. And many of your peers who have jobs now will
be trying to leave them in a year. Cause, ya know, ringworm is not cute.
There’s this idea that you graduate, find a job, and then you’re set,
but you’re actually going to have to do some moving and experimenting to find what’s
right for you. To 2015 Ahsante, You won’t be settling down
any time soon. I know you love your independence, but there’s
no shame in living at home. You’re in a rush to be on your own but,
you’re blessed with supportive parents so you really don’t need to be.
And I mean, free food amirite. You don’t even treck across campus and listen
to a presentation you didn’t even like just to get what turns out to be lukewarm plain
cheese pizza. Delicious and often homemade free food right
downstairs. Embrace it. Girl, I know it seems like everyone is moving
to NY or LA, but some people aren’t and you shouldn’t feel pressure to do so.
A lot of your friends will actually stay in the same town for a while after school.
And you’ll actually grow to like Boston in the summer.
You know once those April snow showers clears out and it actually warms up. The two months
of summer, it’s nice. College gives you an unrealistic expectation
of what friendship should be like. No you won’t always see all of your friends
all of the time, but you’ll keep in touch with the friends who count. As you start working, put aside some budget
to travel and visit friends, to facilitate that last point. The constant stress, periodic depressive episodes,
and judgmental cliqueiness you experienced at Harvard made you wonder if it would be
worth it, and having had two years the get over the
PTSD you’re finally starting to see the results and yes your life is better for it.
Like when I say the struggle was real as the entire set of rational and irrational numbers,
it was real. But worth it, the sum of the series was positive
in value. Ok, enough with the math jokes, I diverge. The best part about Harvard is the people
and you are going to be leaning on an amazing network of friends and alumni who will be
incredibly generous and supportive. There’s really no way to casually mention
that you went to Harvard. You’re always going to get a big reaction,
you’ve tried every way possible to play it off, be cool.
It’s just not going to happen, people are just going to have high expectations of you
from now on, so you know, have fun dashing those. Even though you just got these fancy degrees
that make you look like you know what you’re talking about, to a certain degree everyone
is still faking it. People don’t know what they’re going to
do with their lives. Your peers may think they know but they actually
don’t because they haven’t tried it yet. You can’t tell what’s going to be a good
fit down the road. You don’t need a 5 year plan, and anyone who
acts like you do is probably just asking because they’re run out of questions during a job
interview, so have some sort of answer, but in reality it’s not that deep. And lastly, Commencement is aptly named.
This is just the beginning, you’re going to do so much developing in the next year
or so. And girl don’t worry, for you, college years
are not the best years of your life. *phew* As cliche as it sounds, the best is definitely
yet to come. Being an independent adult who is completely
in control of how they spend their time is pretty amazing.
And those are things I wish I’d known. Let me know what you wish you had known when
you graduated, and if you just graduated then congratulations
and how are you feeling about all this – let me know in the comments.
You can like this video if you liked it, subscribe and get notifications to see more, and if
you want to help make more, then consider supporting me on Patreon.
For my first 20 patrons, I’m going to list their names in the description box of my videos
for the rest of the year so if you’re one of the first ones, you get a little shout
out. Huge thanks to them and today I want to especially
shout out Melissa – Melissa, you’ve had my back for a while, thank you for helping
me to make this a reality. As always, remember to live spiritedly and
think creatively. What’s making me happy this week is Evelyn
from the Internet’s video – love her stuff. And it’s on feeling behind in life. It’s
creative, it’s a collaboration between her and Hallease who I really like as well so
I will definitely link that and go check it out. Thanks to everyone who’s signed up for my
email newsletter. That’s where you can keep up with me, everything that I’ve posted
across the internet. And get some recommendations, an extra article, so it’s pretty fun! Keep
up to date, keep in the loop. For instance I actually have posted a video
in the past week, it just wasn’t on my channel. It was for the New Age Creators and I’ll
link it here but the newsletter is a way to keep up with that sort of thing. And VidCon! VidCon’s coming up, I’m a
featured creator again this year! Whaat? I’m so excited. I’m really busy this year so
I’ll link my agenda in case you’re coming. Definitely say hi, find me, I would love to
see you. Well, I’m going to go find the right smoke
signals to follow. Thank you so much for watching and I will see you next time. *POP*