Meet the Consultant Teaching Trans Women How to Be ‘Feminine’ November 21, 2019 100 By Stanley Isaacs CategoryArticles BlogTagsa day with Broadly career development coaching consulting culture diversity documentaries documentary female feminine traits femininity feminism gay rights Gender gender coach gender roles girl boss girl gang girls journalism lgbt lgbtq make-up makeup artist Monica Prata Nouveau She PROFILES sponsored trans trans issues TRANS RIGHTS transgender Transgendered underground vice vice mag vice magazine vice videos vice.com witches women World 100 Comments Vivian Tristesse says: October 12, 2019 at 6:53 am As a person who is probably a transwoman, I haven't really been able to complete my transition because I'm not confident in my feminine image. Ironically, I am in stealth, successfully pretending to be a cis woman, but I don't feel comfortable in my own skin. Watching this, I can't help but feel that if I had had a someone to coach me like this, I would be a lot healthier and happier than I am today. Reply I am gay says: October 13, 2019 at 12:55 am Don't need to be anything. Cis people do not own gender binaries and are not juries. If you're trying to appeal to cis people, you should maybe ask why that is. Reply M.A. says: October 13, 2019 at 7:54 pm Woman = adult human female. Everything else is sexist stereotypes. Reply die Boy says: October 13, 2019 at 10:37 pm I don't judge for the fact I'm a boy who wants to be a girl. Reply kim d says: October 14, 2019 at 3:14 pm Gross Reply Cleo Wynter says: October 14, 2019 at 3:41 pm Consultant: "Is this a shirt or a dress?" Kristie: "yes." Reply Ron B. says: October 14, 2019 at 8:39 pm I don't think femininity is 100% a personal choice. Reply Cosmic kitty says: October 14, 2019 at 9:42 pm Although its politically correct to say, "you don't have to be 'feminine' to be a woman!" I think that most trans women do want to look and act like cis women. Its their money and if this service is helping them then I think its great. Reply Sweetpea says: October 14, 2019 at 10:02 pm IShe's Telling Them How To Act Like A Woman 😏but They CAN'T , Why, No Hips Like Us Real Females !!🤷🏾♀️ Reply Sweetpea says: October 14, 2019 at 10:03 pm He's going to make An Ugly Looking Female !😬 Reply Jessica Postopoly says: October 15, 2019 at 6:55 am Is nobody going to talk about how Monica looked awesome in all of those wigs? Seriously could probably pull off any hairstyle or colour. Reply Sammich says: October 15, 2019 at 7:08 am Just watching a bit, I feel like the feminist are really putting the trans women down. I get it though, not everyone can understand what its like to feel as though born in a different gender. In some cases its not even a feeling, its a known reaction and at first I wasn't too keen on the idea of someone teaching someone how to be more "X" way, but actually its not bad. I'm cis female and I often find myself wanting to be more and more like a guy, but my problem is family and no real way to express myself and become more of what I want to be. I tend to wear slightly more masculine shirts, but that's it. For me, even at my age, I have no way or understanding to help either possibly guide myself to being a trans male. So as person like Monica would help me feel more at ease and possibly consider what its like to be who I'm maybe meant to be. Reply Diego the Bandit says: October 15, 2019 at 12:28 pm Monica is so beautiful. I'm simping over here. Jokes jokes . Great vid. Very insightful Reply Dio is Daddy says: October 15, 2019 at 6:54 pm Idk why they’re acting like this is a bad thing. I think it’s good for people who want to transition and don’t know how to go about it and who want to pass. I think it’s nice, I used to know someone who was trans and wasn’t taken seriously because she didn’t know how to dress as a girl very well. She dressed like a 12 year old I wish I could have helped her because she was trying but didn’t know how to go about it. Reply Hermoine Jean Granger says: October 15, 2019 at 9:33 pm The reporter somehow acts as if every trans woman must go there because it exists and thats why its so bad how theu put it. I think its stupid, if you are a trans woman and of course don't want to have such type of advice and want to express yourself differently then obviously don't go there. Its an offered possibility to improve yourself in a certain way if you want it. Nobody is forcing trans woman to go to her Reply SumDum Fuc says: October 16, 2019 at 12:51 am He looks like nancy pelosi LOL Reply Martie Gallego says: October 16, 2019 at 6:23 am This is rediculous !! Reply Anthony G says: October 16, 2019 at 1:30 pm I always find it so interesting – those people interviewed in the beginning are so head strong about not conforming, not forcing labels on themselves, not bending to society’s norms – they are in turn perpetuating this self hatred and shame for those ppl in their community that really want to blend in and “pass”. They are in turn shaming the trans ppl for simply wanting to blend into society – I loved how they talked about not everyone wants to be a warrior. Not everyone is mentally ready to be harassed and questioned every time they walk out the door. Some girls just want to be girls – and that’s okay. Let girls be girls and they can be they – it’s okay both ways. Yes, society and our culture as a whole can use some more compassionate and understanding toward the trans community, but not every member of the trans community wants to be or is comfortable being a spokesperson/warrior all the time. Reply Saga Söderhäll says: October 16, 2019 at 2:11 pm Kristen has such a feminine face shes super lucky and she looked great in the grey skirt!!!!!!! Reply ネズミ says: October 16, 2019 at 9:26 pm The interviewer is being overbearing. She focuses so much on her own ideals and forces them onto scenarios that have nothing to do with it. Monica is giving advice and tips, not forcing them. It just seems like she's expanding their minds by vocalizing her own feminine thoughts for them to build off of, and it clearly makes them so happy. It warms my heart really. It's true that there's no way to truely be feminine, but there's definitely a base for it, and we as cis woman grow up with that base without thinking too hard about it and build off of it to form our "femininity" but these trans women don't. She's just giving them a place to start because they're feeling a little frazzled and confused, and I'm sure it takes a load off for them and makes them feel like it's a bit easier to live life. Reply miki bear says: October 17, 2019 at 3:55 am 1:00 in: i want to die. Shes helping them look how they want to, not be 'feminine'. Why are you upset mam? Reply vasmajority45 says: October 17, 2019 at 5:36 pm My friend is trans and she like the tomboy look than a girly girl. As in workout gear and fitting Jean's with converse rather than dresses and heels. Reply m g says: October 18, 2019 at 5:40 am I think shes an absolute god send. Reply ishanxo says: October 18, 2019 at 5:45 pm Lol Reply Asena says: October 18, 2019 at 5:54 pm I'm a early stage stage transgender woman who doesn't own anything relieving. I've always preferred to be as covered as possible unless I'm home. It's true that appearing feminine is a lot of work, in many ways not shown here Reply Rings says: October 18, 2019 at 7:27 pm Monica is a miracle worker. JUST LOOK AT KRISSY! SHE LOOKS LIKE A MIDDLE AGED MOM! Reply David Bussell says: October 18, 2019 at 8:44 pm I love this, I WANT this. I hate this white feminist idea that femininity is bad, that isn’t what feminism is. Feminism is about allowing that choice, letting trans women choose to be out and proud or to try to pass very hard. Real feminists that actually listen to trans people know the value of allies like Monica. Reply LittleMadOne78 says: October 19, 2019 at 7:57 am "To me, this feels like it is for men." Yeah. Exactly. Reply joe wittig says: October 20, 2019 at 1:47 am I love this woman, she helps so many people just by being who she is, so amazing Reply Colbee Cammarata-Hodgman says: October 20, 2019 at 7:21 am Literally if they say the word cis one more time I'm gonna break something. Literally us trans people have one goal and it's too pass and usually we do that by swinging to standardized cliche for our preferred gender. This women is doing a great thing, and I hope she never stops. Shes not only helping trans women feel more comfortable, but also gives them a good example to copy. Reply ultrakool says: October 20, 2019 at 1:03 pm I'm on that weird part of youtube again Reply jess plant says: October 20, 2019 at 5:41 pm Just shave your legs first. Naw chill Reply Natasha Alford says: October 20, 2019 at 11:15 pm Leave this lady alone. She is helping them. How can you judge her. If you couldn’t have an open mind why even go? Just shut up already. Reply D Vá says: October 21, 2019 at 2:27 am I don’t see anything wrong with looking for help or guidance for being a Tran, I’m know I would be wondering were to start or just give it a try.. tried of all that feminism sh** they talk about being open minded and they shut ideas like this down, not allowing ppl like me who are seeking this … haters and judgesrs 🤦♀️ tired of ppl saying I want to break away from the typical women stuff, well other older men who had to hide this from there families and now need guidance 👏 Reply Pearl Bhon says: October 21, 2019 at 2:32 am I love them, they are so brave in this horrible world Reply jane don says: October 21, 2019 at 2:25 pm Feminine to most people is soft & Non male-For Cis women to say that dressing "Manly" is feminine is just wrong Reply Savannah Napier says: October 22, 2019 at 2:49 am The interviewer said that there’s no definition to femininity but I feel that can invalidate trans women who want to have the long hair, long nails, makeup, breasts, etc. You can’t say you want people to be free to live how they want and to be happy and then get upset that they want to emulate the traditional ideals of femininity. Reply Where is Waldo says: October 22, 2019 at 7:16 am She must be charging them a arm and a leg because that apartment she lives in is about $3000 to $5000 a month in Nyc Reply Aishwariya Sweety says: October 22, 2019 at 7:40 am Monica is awesome.The interviewer seems to entirely the point. Reply reymunesoda says: October 22, 2019 at 1:13 pm if the women she's helping are happy then that's all that matters Reply Nunnuv Yorbizniz says: October 22, 2019 at 4:06 pm These freaks and useful idiots can vote. Jesus Christ we're so fucked Reply seb campbell says: October 23, 2019 at 4:01 am THIS VIDEO HAS SO MANY TERF TALKING POINTS PRESENTED LIKE IT'S FROM THIS LEGITIMATE LEFT WING POINT OF VIEW!! DON'T PRETEND TO CARE ABOUT TRANS PEOPLE IF YOU DON'T UNDERSTAND THE KIND OF SUPPORT SOME OF THEM MAY NEED!! YOU MAY NOT CARE ABOUT TRADITIONAL FEMININITY BUT SO SO MANY TRANS WOMEN DON'T HAVE THAT LUXURY BECAUSE OTHERWISE THEY'LL BE SEEN AS MEN Reply Nichole Radcliffe says: October 23, 2019 at 12:07 pm She's helping people remove their dysphoria she is not forcing this on people. Honestly I could have used her services so I wouldn't feel like people are looking at me like an alien wherever I go. Reply MiniCat says: October 23, 2019 at 3:13 pm As a woman I'd like to get my own consultation! I never had this with my sisters or mom growing up, so being traditionally feminine is uncomfortable for me. Reply Jaiku Cucu says: October 24, 2019 at 4:03 am Excellent! Reply sad reee says: October 25, 2019 at 5:01 am I dont think it's weird. Theres a classic meaning of feminine and they fell in love with that meaning. Let them live. Reply sad reee says: October 25, 2019 at 5:07 am Being what you want to be isnt conforming. Looking classically feminine dont make you any less free (woke) as a woman. Reply sad reee says: October 25, 2019 at 5:18 am I wish in order to be pretty I didnt have to shave my legs… like implied by Monica at the end.. Reply Mylan Rouzier says: October 25, 2019 at 10:10 pm Fuck those interviewers who basically dont know anything about dysphoria. Shes helping those women SO MUCH. SHE LET THEM AND HELP THEM and she's so not judgemental and adorable with them, i love it so much Reply KERCHIRGA says: October 26, 2019 at 5:21 am I really wish cis people would understand that I don't want to look feminine to please men or whatever, I want to look feminine to feel better and alleviate dysphoria. I know women don't have to be feminine to be valid, but I want to be more feminine, and I wish that was understood to be what I want rather than me being tricked by societal norms or something like that. Reply leesly B says: October 27, 2019 at 5:48 pm Wanting to look “feminine” to fit in is different than having and cultivating that feminine energy Reply Mad Dog Murdoch says: October 29, 2019 at 12:53 am Wow didnt take someone long to cash in on other peoples trauma. well done! what you gonna say to Jesus? oooooh I hope you like it hot. X Reply Mad Dog Murdoch says: October 29, 2019 at 12:56 am HI Everybody..Im Monica Prada ( FYI didnt legally change my name due to obscene vanity and narcissism) and I realised Im a real woman and can cash in on these men after mental breakdowns, having already being a woman I don't even have to spend one day training I'm nearly over qualified with my real TITS! Reply Anika Wiebe says: November 1, 2019 at 4:40 am Aw Kristen is so cute I love her Reply Kim Prims Stokka says: November 1, 2019 at 10:35 am Why do transwomen need to learn that if they'r already a "woman"? Reply maxine ayala says: November 1, 2019 at 7:21 pm I really dont get this is she on hormones idk well as long as its alll love im for it ❤ Reply Pixie Stick says: November 2, 2019 at 2:04 pm I don't see any problem with this. No one is forcing these people to go. The interviewer is such a "iM nOt LiKe oThEr gIrLs" dumbass. Monica is being herself and helping others be themselves. Reply Timothy says: November 2, 2019 at 10:43 pm What most of these people forget is that trans people have an actual dysphoria giving them distress and anxiety to not be recognized as a woman. Femininity is partly socially constrcuted but if people want to be feminine it is as okay as wanting to break up for yourself with this concept Reply Genesis Kravitz says: November 5, 2019 at 3:21 am I think it’s okay to show trans women the “educational” part of conventional feminism. I’m a cis woman who identifies as a femme woman and one of my most fondest moments was when my sister taught me to walk in heels and put in make up. My sister even corrected my posture. I loved it. It was who I was and she brought more of myself out of me. This is important. A lot of trans women need a sister who KNOWS how to be a woman in the world. Reply Genesis Kravitz says: November 5, 2019 at 3:21 am I think it’s okay to show trans women the “educational” part of conventional feminism. I’m a cis woman who identifies as a femme woman and one of my most fondest moments was when my sister taught me to walk in heels and put in make up. My sister even corrected my posture. I loved it. It was who I was and she brought more of myself out of me. This is important. A lot of trans women need a sister who KNOWS how to be a woman in the world. Reply Genesis Kravitz says: November 5, 2019 at 3:21 am I think it’s okay to show trans women the “educational” part of conventional feminism. I’m a cis woman who identifies as a femme woman and one of my most fondest moments was when my sister taught me to walk in heels and put in make up. My sister even corrected my posture. I loved it. It was who I was and she brought more of myself out of me. This is important. A lot of trans women need a sister who KNOWS how to be a woman in the world. Reply Genesis Kravitz says: November 5, 2019 at 3:21 am I think it’s okay to show trans women the “educational” part of conventional feminism. I’m a cis woman who identifies as a femme woman and one of my most fondest moments was when my sister taught me to walk in heels and put in make up. My sister even corrected my posture. I loved it. It was who I was and she brought more of myself out of me. This is important. A lot of trans women need a sister who KNOWS how to be a woman in the world. A lot of women LOVE being conventionally feminine. The world conforms and every alternating taste and viewpoint should be exalted BUT conventional femininity and softness are a goal for many. Even men. Reply Celina Chimera says: November 5, 2019 at 6:49 am She providing a service that is invaluable to trans-women. Let them spend their money how they wish. Reply Lucy says: November 5, 2019 at 6:58 am … no.. this isn’t.. what? Transgender isn’t clothes and makeup. You don’t put it on and take it off in the real world. You put it on to face the real world as the real you- hoping one day to not have to put on anything special to look like a woman or man, you just want to be. I can’t believe this is what gets attention in the transgender community. Gender non conforming and transgender are not the same thing. This is what people think when they find out I’m trans, and it’s wrong Reply sasuke5088 says: November 5, 2019 at 9:28 pm "the feminist in me". Excuse me, you're confused on what feminism is. It challenges gender, but you get pissed if someone wants to explore their gender in a different aspect? Reply MaLLinz289 says: November 6, 2019 at 6:02 am I just want to say I can easily see how this would be hugely helpful and healing to have a style consultant, and the interviewer needs to check her privilege as a cis woman. Reply Aryan Blood says: November 6, 2019 at 7:24 am Wow this is so modern and amazing. Reply jeremaih joshua lood says: November 7, 2019 at 6:35 am She is glowing after the makeover 😍 Reply Night Cat says: November 8, 2019 at 3:45 am If someone was born this way & it's "so natural", why do they have to be taught it? Reply CozyCat ASMR says: November 8, 2019 at 1:51 pm 7:17 everything coming back to $$$$ 😭 happy they kept it real, and for those that can afford it. Hope more opportunities open for everyone ❤️ Reply Anne Wagner says: November 8, 2019 at 7:15 pm I did not like the interviewer. She wants that women are respected for who they are but she does not tolerate Monica being who she is, a feminine woman. Reply Kelly Edey says: November 10, 2019 at 6:44 am I am so uncomfortable with the trans movement, this all feels fake and forced. Reply Alex says: November 10, 2019 at 9:07 am this is so great! I think she makes a good point in saying that this can keep people from feeling like they need surgeries. sometimes you just need a sister Reply Tara Estelle Adelizzi says: November 10, 2019 at 4:19 pm She looks fantastic! This made me tear up a bit. People glow when they feel beautiful and she is helping people discover pathways to self love. Reply Zeb Zelezney says: November 12, 2019 at 1:27 am Yep, the end of our civilization has arrived – no civilization can survive this amount of degeneracy. The ancient Romans were also big on sexual perversion near the end.You are all INSANE – all the people who voted this video up: mark my words: you are INSANEEEEEEE and you are SCUUUUM. We need civil war in this country. Reply Bailey Spelt Beefy says: November 12, 2019 at 5:07 am People think a REAL woman showing trans women how to be feminine/how to be womanly is ridiculous and pointless?What a fucking joke😹Natural born and real women know how to do that better than anyone in the world and no matter what a man does to make himself LOOK like a woman they will never be a real woman or know exactly what it’s like to actually be a woman Reply Jordyn Elliott says: November 13, 2019 at 2:57 am Real feminism is accepting people no matter how they’d like to present themselves — more feminine or more masculine that’s HER right and we should fight for that. Reply Alex Callaghan says: November 13, 2019 at 7:09 am This goddamn narrator didn’t even try to understand trans people at all, nor does she even listen to them at all Reply Jana W says: November 15, 2019 at 1:41 pm "Once their gender is validated they can take it down a notch and present comfortably." I agree. It was the same for me as a young girl. So many cis young girls wear a lot of make up and dress very provocatively because they want to explore their newly found womanhood. They want to be seen as adult women, taken seriously as women, present as women, not as girls. Transitioning probably feels a lot like female puberty. When I was 14 I would NEVER go outside without make up, now that I am 23 I don't wear make up at all. It's all a process of finding your place as a woman, being valued and validated as a woman and Monica is such a sweet person, i bet she is helping these people a lot. Reply Bonnie L says: November 15, 2019 at 1:56 pm Some people want to look feminine, and some people need help learning how to do just that. I think this business is fantastic and insanely helpful for trans women or fem-aligned people who never got to learn this sort of stuff when they were younger 😊 Reply Thomas Pallister says: November 15, 2019 at 2:49 pm not all trans women necessarily want to be hyperfeminine, but when you get misgendered it feels like being hit by a brick. A lot of this is just grasping at straws to send as many signals as possible that you are, in fact, a girl. Reply God Nut says: November 16, 2019 at 9:27 am i don't think the interviewer got that this is a way to help with dysphoria. She was so negative about everything and was so quick to judge Monica. She also said "as a feminist…", gurl as a 'feminist' she should know there are plenty of different ways women can feel empowered. Reply alex mclean says: November 16, 2019 at 9:45 pm OMG I can't believe that people are OFFENDED by this service! If someone wants to present as a female but they have a male body and were raised as a male, surely they are going to need some help. And if they don't want help that's fine too. But don't shame her! Reply Jennifer Baldo says: November 16, 2019 at 11:17 pm I'm so glad that Christine actually went to a real body piercer that uses a hollow needle and not some 16 year old at a Claire's in the mall. Reply dheeraj rawat says: November 17, 2019 at 4:22 am What the fuck is cis female Reply none says: November 17, 2019 at 1:54 pm I'm a girl and I'm not feminine because its weekness and I don't wanna be weak Reply Beautiful Princess says: November 17, 2019 at 5:52 pm this interviewer pissed me off they picked the wrong person for this Monica you are amazing love Reply Dedi Bien says: November 18, 2019 at 8:12 am Why did she put them in the same wig though? They look great regardless Reply Sarah D says: November 18, 2019 at 10:10 pm the interviewer is missing the point. the point is to help trans women conform to how they personally want to look. Reply Felicia V says: November 18, 2019 at 11:01 pm I'm sure the interviewer means well but she's not trans, she doesn't get why a trans woman would love to have someone help them alleviate their dysphoria. Monica is doing something nice, she's not forcing them to be any way Reply Mars Gold says: November 19, 2019 at 10:13 am Feminism is about acceptance! It irritated the living daylights out of me that she said that she thought the feminization would be sort of “I love Lucy, have the dinner ready for your husband when he gets home”. FEMINISM is about accepting the choices that women make for themselves, and a lot of women make the choice to be home makers and raise the kids and that’s totally a respectable thing to do if that’s what the woman wants… to bash that is so anti-feminist. This reporter would be better not working in this kind of field I could see her reporting on economics or something more factual than gender fluidity and expression. Reply TheBrainFlow says: November 19, 2019 at 12:49 pm Why are people saying a Cis Woman is the wrong person to teach anyone what is like to be feminine? As someone who’s lived 24/7 being, trying to be, working with the optics of femininity, and also being pressured to be feminine by society, wouldn’t a Cis female makeup artist be the person with the most experience in this subject? She’s trying to use her expertise to help people who WANT to learn what is feminine. You can (and should) ALWAYS adapt to your own view of it from that. Reply Mandyloves Games says: November 19, 2019 at 2:27 pm "I think there are trans women out there who don't want to conform to that kind of femininity." Hmm, yeah, but aren't there also ones who do want to? lol The ones who want to can and the ones who don't want to don't have to. It really is that simple. Reply Mxrtinx Vers says: November 19, 2019 at 7:08 pm She's just teaching them feminizer techniques, it doesn't means she's teaching HOW TO BE A WOMAN or HOW A WOMAN LOOKS. Women can look the way they want, more or less feminine. She just helps trans womans look the way THEY WANT, and if they want to look "feminine" is their right too. Reply Matriarchy Superb says: November 19, 2019 at 10:26 pm Trans aren’t women. Why not teach them to be men instead of creeps? Reply Rachael Perrin says: November 20, 2019 at 12:06 am I want this career. Reply tanisha says: November 20, 2019 at 1:11 am sounds like the interviewer has some deep seated internalized misogyny she hasn't come to terms with about how women can express their femininity. you can be feminine and powerful but this woman thinks u have to reject femininity to be powerful Reply Ravyn Perez says: November 20, 2019 at 9:45 am I think the journalist takes her already feminine features for granted. She doesn’t realize how lucky she is to be able to be seen as feminine despite maybe not being a traditional feminine woman. This isn’t something older trans women sometimes can’t relate to at all and she just doesn’t get it Reply annie j says: November 20, 2019 at 9:37 pm She is amazing I am happy that a person like that is out there ! Reply Fern Rod Jr. says: November 21, 2019 at 3:28 am This gender consultant bitch is more shady than her smile….. Reply Leave a Reply Cancel reply Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *Comment Name * Email * Save my name, email, and website in this browser for the next time I comment.